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Thank you for making this. I can definitely see this in my life. I often have to work closely with XSFJ types, and if I’m not careful, I end up trying to do my job using an Si/Ne axis - which just makes me barely competent and exhausted. But if do things my way, they often think I’m “doing it wrong”. And they get uncomfortable. I’ve had to learn to just let them think that. If I keep plugging away, they eventually realize that I may do throngs in a strange way, but it does get done.

I truly hope if this is an issue other INF Handling interactions for me even with those I know quite personally on an intimate level hasn't harboured me from making decisions or making a statement towards them or a situation they are linked. At least for me I value my strong empathy as a means to listen and understand. I'll be human with that person. I however don't make my empathetic abilities to be the driver in regards to my actual decision making only the passenger unless compassion is truly needed in the situation. If one is finding themselves easily manipulated making their decision making skills are skewed by others to make these decisions from the other person and you can't make clear "self-biased" actions you're comfortable with then I absolutely agree with Wenzes suggestion of taking time to find space and find healthy distance from othes to find your own process. When away from others whom you may have an unhealthy dynamic with if they are not around for significant time, if they no longer are subtly influencing you what are your decision making skills like now? Better yet what do you think of those individuals now without them around. Are you still the same, do you still see them the same? Food for thought but this is your meal to digest alone. Know Thyself has never been more true.

I can make "stone cold decisions". It just takes me literally 10-30 years longer than a non-INFJ would to make the same decision. :s

7:30 the truth is people will still most likely love you more when you’re authentic with yourself.

Authenticity requires vulnerability ❤

Thanks!

true. pink glasses fall off and you feel perplexed, how stupid you were.

It appears as i make personal self discoveries, a video of yours pops up with confirmation. I'm aware of this. I know a lot logically about my circle but still act on emotional connection. Another reason I seek isolation and solitude. I do love people but I can lose myself

<<I was homeless, did drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I have a home, a wife and a lovely year old daughter (zoe), and a stream of income that gats me $47,000 weekly. Plus a new identity - a child of God, Hallelujah!!!🇺🇲❣️♥️❤️

Thank you for this topic! I want to take your class when I have the $$

Thank you Wenzes❤ you’re a genius

As resident manager of an independent living facility I would meet people who needed far more care then I could provide.

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Its intersting but you know... do that mean lack of empathy? My question is -" Is empathy advantage or disanvantage? "

Of course you need to take others in consideration when you make decisions. Have you never ran jobs or people in work situations? Or even want input when deciding, sonething easy, like where to go for lunch when going with others?

It’s so funny how I have found myself doing things that are mentioned in your videos. This one being something that I’ve done that has helped me tremendously. Thank you for sharing. ❤

So accurate, it stings a little. 🤍

As we age, we wise up and start learning better boundaries and that it is ok to put ourselves first once in awhile

Thank you Wenzes!

Thank you Wenzes, I needed to hear this!!! It is scary how I often merge with people and lose myself... 🙈 Big hug! Nic

I could just kiss you right now!! Exactly what i very very desperately needed to hear ❤ Now to find a place i can crash at for 21 days 😂

In other words, emotional investments warp our objective judging skills.

I came to this realization too. There’s a person in my group of friends; when I was in a close friendship with her, I felt her energy totally consume me so that I felt dissonant…there was something about the energy. She’s one of those people who others bend over backwards for, and I was doing that too until I started feeling something off. She’s not nice to me, but in a very subtle way that others miss. I had to pry myself out of that relationship so that now we’re just friends because our friends are friends, but we wouldn’t be otherwise. I’m sure she’s noticed a change, but I can’t go back to that. No one else seems to feel anything off about the energy dynamic with her though, so I guess it was just me? I would agonize over every off thing I noticed. It was really stressing me out.

Your content topic and timing is always metaphysically from the aether 😂

I cutoff a few of my toxic friends just a few days ago and was really questioning my decision and this video came right in time to validate what I was going through. Thank you so much for this! And yes only in a few days I feel more energetic (they were seeking a lot of my energy and I was feeling drained) and I can also more rationally chose myself over them. Must do for INFJs!!

The biggest disappointment is that my best female friend betrayed me. I was always to nice to her, but she decided to ignore me after a year or so. I think I was too kind. The more I think about her actions in the past the more I realize that often she did not treat me with respect but also I feel that I know almost everything about her, she should have never done those things

Thanks.

Thanks Wenzes! I was just listening to an Anita Moorjani video yesterday about empaths and relationships and she was making the exact same point you are making, she just came at it from a different angle. She was saying that when it came to manipulators and other people who are toxic to her, as an empath she would always see past the corrosive behaviors to the vulnerabilities and frailties of the person. Basically getting sympathetically caught up in their energy field, which is your point. So she would get lost in her empathy and not be able to protect herself. Which sounds exactly like what you are saying. And I gotta say when you get the same message from two very different sources in a 24 hour period, time to sit up and take notice (more than usual) cause the universe it sending an important message.

This is an awesome video. I had just made this decision a couple of days ago and it's already making a difference. This video is great confirmation!

Gosh, you're so damn right about that! Now that you're saying it, I've felt that subconsciously in a number of cases and in retrospect I did realize I was so much better off without those people rocking my boat! Thank you for that insight ❤ I needed to hear from outside where the outside is a very highly advanced INFJ 🎉

Wow this is incredible Wenzes! This is absolutely what I was doing with one of my friends - I actually have cut them out because I was so obsessed. It is such a healthier place to be. You are right even after 1 day everything had changed, all my thoughts calmed and it was so much easier to make decisions Thank you so much ❤

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Hi id like to support Wenzes. Is there any paypal or way to support the channel. Im Braxton a former client. Ive grown alot and used sections of the 5 pillar formula to boost my income. I also am going to purchase above the radar again to reread it to remind myself of the value of the concepts.

Don’t feel discouraged or castigate yourself when you’re not 100% successful at this, just note it, then return your focus to taking ACTION to live your epic INFJ life❣️

Ss detest INFJ. They can’t have even a glimpse of what INFJs are about.

I am an INXJ, so I have both.

Like Jesus

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666 as a thumbnail? Really? INFJ, ha?

I’m quite sorry W but I been watching your videos for a while now. I’m INFJ but I truly don’t see myself as a unique and special character. All people have unique qualities and traits. I think that any personality doesn’t like to be villains of anyone stories. You don’t have to be INFJ to not to like it. Sorry W but you are getting lately so self absorbed in your uniqueness. Please get out of your head before you might become completely unpleasant individual, be careful of it!

Yeppa!!

Spot on. Been doing them all my life but never thought of them as hobbies. Rebel with a cause.

Yeah we can read people. And its depressing.

Giving their negative energy back.

luv it!

Thank you for good advice, all you have to say is right, from now on i will adjust my self, to do the things you said, once again thanks i really admire your good mindset

I was thinking I'm good at reading people however you make me feel like a baby. I need a hug. on the serious note your work is exceptional

In my case my family has turned me into their scapegoat; No matter how much I tried to form bridges, they would knock me down. What can you expect from a Narcissistic family. No more. Door slam!

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In my entire life, despite criticism, opinions on me that were taken out of context, and even at times when I was an unhealthy person and falling short. I have never doubted my integrity, goodness, or self-worth. I help everyone as much as I possibly can. Nobody has the ability to make me feel like a bad person, except myself. My personality is unbreakable in this sense. 'Life is but a poor actor who struts and frets upon the stage, and then is heard no more. It is a tale told by an idiot. Indicating little more than sound and fury.' Shakespeare That is the majority of people to me Don't worry about 'Them' focus on yourself. The results are amazing